Before baby K hit the stage of having more of a personality and being able to express his new found confidence when out and about, I’m afraid to say that I was one of those mums that boldly said I won’t be handing him our gadgets (phone/tablet) to keep him occupied! Yeh OK!
Let me explain, the reason for this is that one New Years Eve a group of us went out for dinner. One of the couples have two older children, at the time I’d say nine and five, and both of them were glued to their parents phones, to the point where we completely forgot they were there. Neither child uttered a word to us or each other the whole evening and that’s no exaggeration!
So now that you have the low down on how I came to the conclusion I did, lets fast forward ten months to where my little quiet baby is now a full blown toddler!
I’ve found since he’s started to walk my boy has a new found independence and no longer wants to be stuck sitting in his buggy or high chair while mummy enjoys a cup of coffee!
To be honest my husband was more against the use of gadgets to keep kids quiet, whereas I tend to lean more towards it’s OK in moderation. I mean I don’t want him to be glued to the tablet 24/7 and not playing, reading and being a child in general, but I think it’s going to be pretty hard to avoid, especially in this day and age where knowing these things is pretty important in schools and the workplace.
At the moment the use of an iPad/tablet isn’t such a problem because he’s too little to ask for it and to be honest I mainly use it to keep him occupied at certain points of the day. For example when he wakes up at 6:30am full of beans and it’s my day off work, out comes Billy and Bam Bam, so we can snuggle in bed for 10 minutes longer (which all parents know makes a difference!) or when we’re out shopping and he starts playing up in his pram in Primark or Costa it’s Kate and Mim-Mim to the rescue!
The same way I use it at certain points of the day to avoid a a little bit of drama, there are times where I am totally against whipping out our phones and gadgets such as at dinner time. To me this is an important time of our day as it’s when we sit down as a family and get to discuss what we’ve been up to and catch up. Mr H has attempted to persuade me to get a TV for the dining room, but I’ve flat out refused! Call me old fashioned but that’s what the living room is for! I think one of the reasons I feel so strongly about no TV and phones at dinner is because my husband works shift work, so every other week he’s on nights, which means when I have him home for the evenings I want to spend it as a family.
I’m pretty sure that as my little man grows up there’s going to be plenty more occasions when I eat my words! But hey I guess that’s the thing with parenting it’s all a learning curve, these little people don’t come with a set of instructions!
What’s your thoughts on using your phone and tablets to get a bit of peace and quiet – is it a yay or nay?