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  1. I completely agree with you- I’ve already started saying no at 7 months and will continue with it. I understand that there has to be some reasoning behind why you are saying no, but you are totally right- you can’t give rationale every single time you say no. No just has to mean no sometimes!

    • Glad you agree, I think sometimes I’m made to feel bad because I’m not ‘explaining’ every little reason but then I think who’s the parent here and who’s the child x

    • I suppose at least with the blogging world you can read and then switch your laptop off and let that be that! Family is a different story! x

    • Totally agree, it isn’t a problem when people give advice because as much as we’d like to think we know everything we don’t, but it’s when people try and force their advice on you when you don’t think it’s for you. I definitely think mummy instincts are usually right most of the time. Thanks for hosting and commenting x

  2. I totally agree with you. Little kids don’t understand reasonings. Sometimes you just have to say no – especially when it’s a safety issue. If mom says no then that’s that. And like you said we aren’t there to be friends we are there to keep our kids safe & raise them to be good people. Thanks so much for linking up with us at #BloggerClubUK
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    • So glad there’s other mums out there that agree. I think so many people are too busy wanting to do this whole new wishy washy parenting thing that I feel like a mum from the Victorian times 😊

  3. I totally agree with you… I’m the same, when I say no, it means no… my kids now 5 and 3, knows what NO means! I think it teaches them that they can’t get away with everything. Hopefully, they’ll learn discipline, respect and resilience from it as well. #KCACOLS

    • My little man knows exactly what it means but is still in the pushing boundaries phase, I may need to introduce some sort of naughty step! x

  4. I say no. Sometimes no is no. Sometimes no is explained. Sometimes I ask why he thinks it might be a no. It depends on the situation. My mood. His mood. Parenting isn’t a one size fits all model and what works for one doesn’t always work for someone else. It irritates me being given advice when I’m already handling a situation!! #KCACOLS

    • Yes yes and yes! The worst is when people try to give advice WHILE you’re in the middle of sorting it out, it’s like really do you want to undermine me in front of my child. Makes my blood boil! x

    • Yes I totally agree. My parents are my friends now at the age of 30, and even though I hated it at the time, I appreciate the fact that they were my parents when they needed to be instead of trying to keep me happy all the time and let me go crazy! x

  5. Great post and probably a little controversial for some perhaps? Personally I dont think it is as I completely agree with your stance and my husband and I parent in a very similar way with our 2 year old. She is told no when no means no, she is told she is naughty when she is naughty and voices are raised when she has really crossed the line. We believe that children need boundaries for exactly the reasons you describe. I’ve seen some of the effects of children not having strong parenting and/or boundaries and it isnt pretty. So im definitely with you on this one! Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • So glad it’s not just me! Another one is the use of the word ‘naughty’ apparently its not good to tell your child they’re being naughty etc. I mean come on! If he’s being naughty that’s the word I’m going to use. Maybe we’re a little old school 😊

  6. Parenting is always going to attract a difference of opinions isn’t it!? We use ‘no’ but we do use rationale too… So our boy knows that the oven is ‘no’ because it’s ‘hot’ and ‘dangerous’!! Fun and games! #KCACOLS

  7. Sometimes I feel like little ones do test us and I feel like I’m saying no a lot. They may not understand the reasoning but they should all understand ‘no’ right. #MarvMondays

  8. I agree with you. I was like that when my daughter was small, and now at 5 she is pretty good at understanding what she can & cannot do. I can’t say the same for other kids I know. Yes sometimes you have to explain why they can’t do something, but not every single time. Sounds like you’re doing a great job to me! #MarvMondays

    • That’s exactly how I feel. I only give my opinion if it’s asked for and even then it’s my opinion the person asking doesn’t have to agree or take my advise. Thanks for commenting x

  9. I definitely agree with you on this one! Although we are still working on it in my house. I have some consistency problems on occasion. Saying No is not a bad thing though and I don’t think it always needs to be explained especially it been explained many times before because sometimes they are just trying to test you. #KCACOLS

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