I recently read an article in the Daily Mail regarding the amount of money grandparents save their children by helping out with childcare, £16.4 billion a year to be exact (click here to read the article)
My parents make up one of the 9.2 million grandparents who look after their grandchild, free of charge. Baby K has been going to nursery since he was nine months, two mornings a week, he’s now two years old and at £458 a month that works out to a nice little fortune that has been spent!
To be honest we didn’t have to put him in to nursery, it was a choice which I was quite adamant about, mainly for two reasons I felt it would be better for him to be around other children and it would give my mum a break from a 7am start four days a week. I’m very aware of the fact that my parents are not obliged to look after my son, they do so purely to help me out and make my life easier and less stressful with nursery fees, as I am unfortunately not in a position to be a stay at home mum.
One of the reasons my parents are happy to help me with childcare is the fact that they never had anyone to look after me when I was small and they couldn’t afford to pay for childcare, so my mum worked from home overlocking garments or would take me to work with her when she had to go into the factory.
The benefit of having parents who are happy to look after my son is the fact that baby K has a special relationship with his grandparents, he loves going there and spending time with them. He gets to build memories which he otherwise may not have had if they never looked after him. He loves sharing a bowl of Cheerios with his dede (granddad in Turkish) in the morning, or sharing anything his dede is eating really, waking up his uncle in the morning by announcing his arrival and having his nene (grandma in Turkish) teach him about our culture and nurture him when I’m not there.
The fact that I have a supportive family makes me feel so blessed, as I have no idea how parents who don’t have family around to help cope.
So I’m writing this post to say thank you to not just my parents but to all the grandparents out there, who instead of now enjoying their lives because they’ve done the ‘parenting thing’ have decided step up and help raise their grandchildren.
This kind of help and selflessness can not be repaid but I hope that one day we can do something that may at least comes close.
Thank you and we love you all!